I was involved in the last round of layoffs and for the life of me I can't understand why I was chosen. I know I'm not the only one who feels this way. I understand it’s “just business” but I can’t seem to move on from it. It’s eating me up inside and I know I shouldn’t allow it to. Is there anyone going through this who can share how they are handling it? I would appreciate any suggestions.
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I understand this feeling. Happened to me in October 2015. It took a while to realize that it was COP’s loss. Worked on my strengths, found another job and have a much better work life balance.
Wait - you just posted that you want to leave, and now you are posting that you were unfairly let go?
Keep trolling
I've found it helpful to find things worth getting excited about, whatever they may be. Makes you realize you have many skills and you're a good and decent person who just got a shifty break this time.
The lay-off package was absolutely miserly. Not sure how many people know that. Over 60% of the people laid off were 50 or older, and they only got a couple weeks of pay for every year they’d been with the company. The decision-making process was baffling, as well. The least technologically savvy in one technology group was the only one in the group who wasn’t laid off. Never published, didn’t write white papers or collaborate on anything of value. It’s baffling.
If there's something that bothers me, and it's within my power to change it, I will change it. If something bothers me but I'm powerless to change It, I accept it, and move on.
It's natural to wonder why something like this would happen. People often go through the stages of grief after losing a job they cared about, not unlike losing a friend or family member. A person's job can end up really integrated with their identity too. Losing that might feel like losing a piece of yourself. It's okay to grieve. It's normal to feel upset, betrayed, maybe lost.
You are not your job though. You're a complex human being that has value far beyond what you do for a living. It's just a job. Work to live, don't live to work.
Take care.
I regret not checking the EOI box. This place is awful and the money isn’t worth the daily bs. I feared facing unemployment in this economy. I really want a severance check before I leave but that boat may have sailed. I’d say you received a blessing in disguise because the company is a dumpster fire despite overpaying everyone that works there. Anyway best of luck and I’m jealous you got paid to leave.
What makes us so angry and bitter is a sense of justice and fairness. The company non-stop talks SPIRIT values, but our leadership doesn’t walk the talk. We are angry at the hypocrisy. The liars are rewarded (or not penalized if they are high enough).
I know, life isn’t fair.
I feel for you. The only cure for a breakup is your next girl/boy friend. The past is done, you can't change it and you shouldn't dwell on it. Your former bosses have already forgotten you, so you need to do the same. Either (a) take a few months off to get perspective, work on some fun, personal bucket list stuff, work on your health. Or (b) start looking for the next role now. Either way, stop looking over your shoulder and start walking forward. Best of luck.
It’s really hard to move on. My perspective. Been here a while. You cannot apply logic. Or fairness. Most people are ethical and fair. Yet most people cannot or will not risk their future by standing up for what is right. Some have witnessed what happens to those who voice an opinion or point of view. They see what happens to good leaders who don’t fall in line. We are governed by only 100 in the Leadership Forum. How many of those do you honestly feel should be in that group? Most of those were chosen early in their careers. A disproportionate percentage do not share our values. And yet they are setting the direction of the company and our fates. It’s hard to move on because you do not want to abandon your beliefs of right and wrong. Push back !
Keep in mind. Only losers stay. I was laid off and I actually make more money but more importantly I have more work life balance.
I was let go and at first I had a lot of anger, but I worked past it fairly quickly . Here is a quote that may help you “ Accept what it is , let go of what it was and have faith in what it will be “. Everyone works through things differently. Try surrounding yourself with things that make you happy (pets,kids,grandkids,etc.)Don’t sit in front of the computer all day looking for a job. Yes you do need to look, but don’t do it all day . Take a walk, read a good book, maybe visit with a relative that can no longer get around.