I apologize for bringing up my personal problem, but I believe there are many more who are facing the same problem. I have been here for several months and nothing has changed significantly, I feel very isolated and not welcome from other colleagues who have been here for a long time.
Were you welcomed by new co-workers when you first came here and how long did it take you to start to fit in?
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We all are in a lot of stress and feel isolated but sometimes just walking up and saying hi or casual conversation goes along way with any old timer or newbie me personally I’ll try to remember what it was like when I started there and how I felt
Visitor here. You are not alone. Many workers that are new are experiencing a heightened feeling of stress in this season. Usually when people are not friendly it’s because they are severely stressed and focused on their own lives and problems. Please don’t think it’s you. But one thing you can try is reaching out to say hi and try to make friends by asking people questions about themselves. Many people love to talk about themselves and it’s a good trick when making friends. I’ve done coaching with folks for years with Optum and now with Anthem and just saw this post. While I don’t do coaching at Anthem I do another job I was realizing no one responded to your post so wanted to make sure you knew you weren’t alone. I started my job right as pandemic hit and it was very hard to be new but take o e day at a time and get lots of rest and eat good meals and remember each day is a new day. I bet you are very fun to be with! Let your fun side show! Also, smile! Sometimes anxiety keeps people from smiling… keep us posted how it’s going with making friends!
If your store is like mine, the atmosphere is not good. Many associates are not happy with the company and many of their decisions. Turnover rate is high and associate satisfaction is critically low.
What does this have to do with you? I think many of the associates are angry and distracted. They have their own problems to focus on so they may not be paying a lot of attention to new people. It’s probably not about you. I know a lot of the associates in my store are withdrawn and aren’t particularly interested in communicating. This can come off as defensive, dismissive or sullen. They don’t want to talk, they just want to do their job and then leave.
Listen to the conversations they do have. This will probably tell you a lot about what’s going on in the store. I’m willing to bet they haven’t even realized how their behavior is viewed but you and others.