Yesterday, my manager of just three months totally lost it. He got verbally abusive, started gaslighting me, and even threw out some wild, made-up accusations. It was so frustrating and honestly kind of surreal. Have any of you had to deal with a manager like that? How did you do it?
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I wish HR had to publish stats on FMLA and other leaves. The amount of people on leave because their toxic management went on crusades to manage them out is unbelievable. And with quarterly WFRs hanging over everyone’s head, it’s no wonder some people are literally experiencing mental health and physical health issues in response to toxic and abusive management approaches.
Judging by previous experience, complaining is pointless. Head of EMEA finance had 7 individual complaints against her. She was promoted !!
That happened to me. Ex Cisco manager. He tried to stage a PIP based on false data. I jumped out and it was the best thing for me and my family.
Not surprise at all - is he (must be he/him) from afar - S Asia?
yup. What I did was contact the ceo directly via email. Then some other stuffed suite told me to not contact the ceo. So I contacted the ceo again. Then I was laid off. Then I spent the summer building a brick pizza oven. Then I got hired at Arista. They layed me off too, after a year. Then I cashed in my JNPR options after the price spiked up due to the pending sales and kept my Arista RSUs which have tripled in value. Then I walked the dogs and loved my wife every day. But this might not work for you.
Have same experience, I left the company, but before leaving I fired all cylinders to put him down and ignored whatever he tries to retaliate.
That's HR not layoffs. It could also be that you actually su-k. Or s/he's a jerk. How's anyone here supposed to know? Maybe you're the gaslighter. But hey, complain, get sympathy, and then the other person is wrong because, that's what everyone says.