I keep hoping I will wake up and this is a nightmare. I cant belive the way this is being handled and during a pandemic. I am scared, I am applying all over the place. I have interviews set up, but until I get the next position, I am in limbo. Even if I am not laid off with Allstate, I dont want to stay with all the work that will be dumped onto my lap. I am not working 6 days a week or on vacations. Come the holidays, guess what you are fired! I have so much anxiety and stress. I thought about s–c-de. How can I look at my child and we lose our home, our everything. I have no family support. I am scared, but I aint that weak. S–c-de would not be the answer. I am just trying not to think about it, my blood pressure isn't staying controlled even with the meds. This has me stressing and I am not sleeping. Dear God, help!
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You sound like a strong person. Please talk to someone- a Dr , friend, etc. things are overwhelming already with what’s going on in the world plus this situation everything is magnified. I’m so sorry and I’m sending positive thoughts to you and your child. I have faith you’ll get through this as a mother. Virtual hug to you.
I worked for Allstate for 16 years when I was laid off in 2009, right after the crash. I was 11 weeks pregnant and devastated to say the least. The severance package and unemployment bridged me to the next career opportunity. After 8 years, I was laid off again. Needless to say, both layoffs were the best thing that ever happened to me...it brought me to my current position which has been the happiest I’ve ever been both with challenging work and great leadership. This last time I was laid off I swore money was not going to be the driving factor in my decision, Who I work for would be. I asked a lot of questions when I interviewed. The job I chose out of 3 offers was the least in terms of compensation but the most in terms of overall job satisfaction. This too shall pass. It will allow you to reflect on what is important.
my heart goes out to you. I am sending you a virtual hug. Please know that this too shall pass. Sometimes blessings come from circumstances like this. You must know that you are irreplaceable to the people that depend on you. Nothing is worth dying for, specially this job, you are stronger than you think. There is a post on this page about entrepreneurs, please look into that, search for your passion, what you really love to do and go do it for money, a legal thing of course 😀 😉
OP here. Thank you for all of your kind words. I never live above my means. I have a year of savings and whatever severance or unemployment I may get. I have also applied for other positions with other carriers. My greatest fear is not having to provide for my child. Being a foster kid and a ward of the state, I have never had family. I was homeless, but I put myself through high school and then college. I have made a lot of great choices in my life. In this day and age, a years savings is not enough. Who knows how long this stuff could last. I am afraid if I stay, The workload will be unbearable, as an adjuster in casualty, we are already spread thin. I dont know what the future holds, I just know God didn't bring me this far to leave me. I have had sucidial thoughts. But I am a warrior, I am sure I will survive. Thanks for the encouragement and kind words. I needed that. All I can do is let go and let God. Whatever his will, let it be done. Blessings to all..
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HLyokFc_e8c
Please please take the advice of those postings directing you to EAP and Life Works. Let God (yes God) help you through one or both of these services.
I don’t know you. I don’t know your belief or whether you have a belief at all. But I do know the God that can help left you out of despair. I have a plaque on my desk that states “pray hardest when it’s hardest to pray”.
This link was posted in this thread earlier. Listen to it. Follow its instruction. If your child is old enough, dance to it with your child. Every morning after you pray but before you work, listen to it and dance and smile. And know that I’m praying and dancing with you! :)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HLyokFc_e8c
You should contact Life Works.
Read the book of proverbs I’m no saint or bible thumped but I promise you that you will find answers ... please do not think Of s–c-de you have so much to love for !!!
I’m on a single income family of 5. I’m also prepared if I get laid off. I have a second job, 6 month emergency fund and would get a full year of severance. I live on a budget. Always remember that lay offs are a constant threat!
Please don't do that. Don't let this company take more than it already has. Please. Talk to someone. Your child loves and needs you. I bet you have friends and family who do too. YOU MATTER!
I’ve never worked anywhere that has employees seriously talking about commiting s–c-de due to the stress and depression they are faced with. There are so many things wrong with this company I don’t even know where to begin. This job has always given me massive anxiety, stress, lack of sleep but the last 2 months have been out of control, I. Can’t imagine what it’s doing to my health long term
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HLyokFc_e8c
As someone who lost a parent when they were young, I can tell you that it will matter more to them that you are here than it will where you live or what you do for a living. You will find something, you will get back on your feet. It will be ok.
I totally get where you are coming from as I have also had some very dark thoughts.. this alone would be bad enough but on top of the pandemic and all the stresses that come with that it’s unbearable.. I have started with eap and you should too. Take everything you can get while you can
From someone that has also had dark thoughts during their toughest times I promise you will land on your feet. Your child needs you, no matter what. Please talk with someone, take advantage of EAP, anything you need to do to get through this. Your life means more then anything else, sincerely praying for you and peace.