Thread regarding Wells Fargo & Co. layoffs

“Men are somehow wired to become not only the provider of his family but be also a role model to the society.” Um, not all men are wired that way!

Statistics show there are PLENTY of women who are the main providers for the family (huge increases over time showing women are the main breadwinners in the household) and who are role models in society. Women do it all.

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You were lucky you didn’t get Bushed like I did when my job was sent overseas and I lost everything I saved just to keep the family operating until a new job happened during a recession.

Looks like plenty of people here think that money equals success. The trick is to earn enough money to enable you to fulfil your purpose. Finding that purpose can be pretty tricky too but I guarantee your purpose is not likely to have more money.

Make sure you have a 401k and you get the Maximum match of 6%

You have time on your side. Here's what you need to do: save and invest every nickle that you can, so that after a couple of decades you'll have enough money to say FU to any manager or company.

You feel like I did when I was that age. Now, 20 years later I'm getting ready to say "FU" to my manager and to WF. It's a wonderful feeling that I never thought would arrive.

Hang in there!

Work Tip: Stand up. Stretch. Take
walk. Go to the airport. Get on a
plane. Never return.

If you are a man, it gets worse as you age. Men are somehow wired to become not only the provider of his family but be also a role model to the society. I am telling you from the perspective of a successful man with career of 30+ years. Even if you have enough to get by for rest of your life, you cannot leave this hamstring wheel because you are conditioned to do the same thing until you cannot.

so get out, do what feels right for you, you don't have to fit to the mold you are seeing or being expected of. Tomorrow, who knows?

I was "downsized" a year and a half ago and decided to retire at 51 YO. Now I spend time doing stuff for friends and relatives for free.
How would you spend your day if you didn't need to earn money? Sounds like you need a few hobbies instead of blaming it on work.

Ignore the GenX whiners complaining that it only gets worse. That is BS. I wasn't necessarily in your exact shoes at 30, but not far off either. I'm 45 now, married, 2 kids and a job I love (not at WF anymore, for the record) and far happier than I was 15 years ago.

Find what you love and go after it - travel, go to concerts, out with friends, volunteer with an organization that supports a passion you may have (art, athletics, music, etc.). Find a church and get involved (to the non-religious, no need to weigh in here, we get it, religion isn't for everyone).

Having a feeling of purpose in life is a much bigger contributor to happiness, according to research.

For those who feel stuck on a hamster wheel, make a change...

Also OP - consider talking with a life coach or therapist, as well, to help you find your drive/passion.

that 's the us cesspool. exploited proletariats thinking someday their ship will come in. Temp embarrassed millionaires....

Wait until you're 50. You'll feel even more motivated to work for a heartless company. And, your time at the gym will include constant thought of how you crushed it when you were 30. This memory will also come up in other environments where you had great physical performances at age 30, but now you're just limping along.

I’m 43, and around your age I felt the same way. Bored. Stuck on a hamster wheel. Possibly depressed. Irritated and frustrated with how my life turned out up until this point of 30, even though it was considered “perfect” and stable in society’s eyes.

You’re still young enough and youthful enough to switch it up and make a change. If you think about it in years until your retire, you have another 37-40 years to go. It’s worse than a prison sentence.

Travel. Seriously, travel and getaway every opportunity you can. A short 3-4 day weekend once a month domestically, or a week or 10 days every 3-4 months internationally. By having a vacation or mental break scheduled and booked every month it will help break up the monotony of your life and give you something to look forward to. You will get to explore different cities, beaches, cultures and expand your mind to new possibilities and potential. Travel and explore while you are young and single.

Never traveled? Not sure where to start or where to go? First, make sure you have a valid passport. If you have never traveled internationally, start with a cruise. Seriously. It sounds stupid and for retirees, but you will see several countries and cities within a week or 10 days. Then you can say, “wow I really liked XYZ, my next trip will be a week there.” Plus you don’t have to worry about food/beverages/snacks/wifi or language barriers. Everything you need and want is covered while cruising. It’s a good place to start. Start with a Mediterranean Cruise that starts with Barcelona Spain. Then Montpellier, Sete, Marseille, Villa Franche in France. Then Monaco, Monte Carlo. Then Florence, Pisa, Rome, Naples in Italy. And then Sicily, Greece and Croatia. I would suggest Viking Ocean Cruises, Princess, Norwegian or Holland American.

If you’re not quite ready for Europe or cruising, take a vacation in Mexico. There are beautiful All Inclusive resorts (meals, drinks/booze, the whole enchilada) and Vacation Packages with the major airlines to the Rivera Maya and you can see the turquoise waters and white sand beaches of Tulum, Playa Del Carmen, Cozumel and the ancient Mayan Ruins in the jungle. Not sure what airlines is a hub for you. But for Charlotte try American Airlines Vacations. For Atlanta try Delta Vacations.

Since you have saved some money, it’s possible and feasible for you. You work hard and you deserve to reward yourself. Don’t buy stuff, buy experiences. Keep your overhead low. A big new house will not make you happy, it will tie you down with yard work and nonstop house work. A fancy car or truck/Jeep won’t either, where are you driving? To work and back? Don't tie yourself down with stuff or lock yourself into a zip code or lifestyle you truly never wanted.

Rotate or swap out gym days with exploring your own city. Say on Wednesdays you are going to eat at a new restaurant or place you haven’t tried every week, and on Saturdays go to a brewery and/or events like a festival/show/concert/sports. You can find events and cool things happening in your city on Axios.

Keep yourself busy, you don’t have to wait around for friends to join you. Invite them. Or, go by yourself and meet new, like minded people. Be comfortable being with yourself. Enjoy the peace and solitude while you can.

Dating? It’s a catch 22. Are you actively searching for a partner/relationship? Dating is hard, it’s like searching and interviewing nonstop candidates that aren’t a good fit. Take a different approach, if you switch it up now, start traveling domestically/internationally and exploring your own city, you might meet a great person doing exactly what you are doing.

If your dream is to have a spouse, a house with a white picket fence, kids, a minivan and a family dog, then go after it if it’s truly what you want. If your heart is not set on that lifestyle (not quite yet) and you have unfinished or unexplored things to accomplish for yourself, then do all the things you need to do before you involve a spouse and children in your life. Being a spouse and parent is a huge commitment, and your dreams will get pushed back further or become nonexistent once you take on the responsibility of a family.

Continue to save, contribute to your 401k, IRA/Roth IRA, personal savings/investments. Stay healthy and see your dentist twice a year. Buy Insurance, Long Term Disability is very important, life can throw a wrench at you sometimes. Always buy Insurance, for life and for every trip/travel.

Hope to see you out there traveling and seeing the world! Good luck to you!

Know this OP, it'll only get harder from there. Sure, you might move up a bit and make more money, but until you retire your schedule will look a lot like it does now but with each passing year it'll take more of a toll on you. I'm almost 50 and it wears me out. Not much alternative until retirement though.

@qno Ga-ross

also, hanky-SPANKY seems more like it.

Another day in the simulation. Another day in the matrix.

You just thought you might have a good career here. You're young. Pivot.

You need to add a girlfriend to your list.

Aww poor baby. If you were born in the early 1910 to 1925 range you probably would have been squeezed into a bomber over Germany jacked up on crystal me-h or dodging bullets at Omaha Beach.

Wow I’m jealous of your schedule. My day looks like:

1. Wake n bake
2. Hanky panky to Pamela Anderson
3. Work work work
4. Lunch n bake
5. Work work work
6. Dinner n bake
7. Some more hanky spanky to Pamela Anderson
8. Sleep

Rinse, repeat

Welcome to...life

Wow you have time for gym, good job.

Me:

1. wake up
2. Feed/walk dog
3. work work work
4. lunch
5. work work work
6. dinner
7. Run kids to whatever activity they have
8. While they at activity, run errands that never get done otherwise
9. Do some cleaning
10. bed time

Same here, but it got worse for me.

At 35 l am forced to train H1B 10 years younger than I am. I quit.

At 39 I am forced to train another group of H1B 10 ~ 12 years younger, at another bank. I stayed and transferred knowledge to them. Learned lots of Chinese language in the mean time. Got laid off 2 years later.

Only 35 years to go.

you need a vacation. take a long one. oh, you are on a work visa? nevermind.