I've been working so much that I barely see my kids. I feel like I have to choose between having the bank outsource my job if I slow down or having to outsource the raising of my own children because I have no time for them whatsoever. And yes, I've tried finding another job but with so little free time it's a slow process. This is inhumane. Are others also having issues with being swamped with unreasonable amounts of work for months?
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I’m putting in 11 hours a day and sometimes on the weekends because of the work load. Some projects are taking up all my time during the day when I have daily deliverables. It’s a struggle and I’m afraid to ask for help because they will pair me with random person who doesn’t know the work to begin with so it will cost more time explaining.
It’s a mental health issue from overwork. You have less than a 1 out of 600 chance of getting displaced. Many of us look at this as hitting the lotto for a year off. I know that I feel that way.
If it helps any, you have a better chance to win the daily number for a few grand than to get displaced here, even if you work your tail off to deflect work.
How many managements are there?
I need a break too. Anybody knows which way I can self identify to get the most time off and the funnest get togethers during work times?
Sounds like the bank work force is composed of the only 9 posters here. If everyone EVER you deal with at the bank is going through the same thing - hard to know- then the system is a problem. If not then is just you. You need to change your attitude. Good luck.
I know of situations which should have been right up the Employee Assistance Program’s alley but they were utterly useless. It’s just a thing we say that we do. Don’t bother.
To the poster below dealing with anxiety, I really recommend you speak to someone. I know the company line is to turn to the Employee Assistance Program, but I can also tell you from experience that the available resources are actually pretty good.
There are some of us that are also "mental health first aid" providers that can help point you to resources. Finally, each state has a NAMI (National Alliance against Mental Illness) office that can help with resources - free of charge in most cases.
You are more important than any of this stuff at work, just remember that. I wish there was a way you could reach out to me to further discuss. You are so worth it and there are resources available to help with your anxiety.
(I lost my mom indirectly related to a multitude of mental health conditions, including anxiety. At one point during her four years of illness, I went into a very deep place myself and required help. There is no shame in needing help. We are all in this together.
I agree with every concern here. I left.
I struggle with anxiety. This is my struggle, and not my employer's responsibility. That said, most days of every week I feel underwater and that I will never get caught up or be able to achieve goals - delivering meaningful work.
I'm trying to find how to manage this. I don't know what others do to balance work and life, but I feel guilty if I don't put 110% in every day. If I don't, then our work doesn't get complete on time and the business is negatively impacted.
It's difficult to know where 'the line' is: What should naturally trigger anxiety and a feeling of overwhelm, and where my mental struggle begins. I feel that I cannot express this to management or colleagues without being seen as a liability. Again, I recognize this is mostly my problem, but being able to discuss it openly (safely) would be helpful for me to gain an understanding of where the barometer 'should be' so I know when it is just my brain overreacting.
We all go through this and it is hard. But you have to keep trying… as difficult as it is. Nobody who left that I know of regrets their move.
Your family will always come first. Remember that!
the managements don't treat you like human; then save enough emergency fund and quit; why should I care about the management
For me, having to return to the office meant less time to work and less willingness on my part to log back on from home and working late into the evening. And now I feel like I am so far behind, I will never catch up. In year's past, when the additional work and projects came up, a few weeks of working 12 to 14 hour days would help me get caught up. No more, 14 hour days are the norm every day all week. Not sure what I am going to do to keep this train moving forward. My boss, who is in another city, does not really know what I do and does not care.
My work is starting to pick up dramatically. I'm working on getting another offer now but it's slow going. I tried the "just say no to working excessive overtime" thing and it feels like I'm constantly behind, getting criticism from my tardiness from all sides. That's when you know it's time to go: when you feel like working a sensible amount 5 days a week is leaving you in a compromised position with regards to deliverables and performance expectations. I'll feel really good, without an ounce of guilt, when I eventually do resign.