Today I finally lost it on my manager after months of being micromanaged, talked down to, and blamed for things that weren’t even mine. I didn’t yell, but I definitely didn’t keep it neutral. I’ve put up with so much, especially since he was brought in with zero experience and started throwing his weight around. Now I’m spiraling because I think this outburst might have sealed my fate. He hasn't spoken to me since. How much trouble am I in?
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@bm 8 is great was Di-k K. that is old school
Which is awesome, because that's how S like "8 is great" turns into a company ki-ling scandal.
You Embraced Candor! (Anyone remember that one?). They should give you a bonus and raise.
Probably worst case, a verbal warning about professionalism.
@a3 No, there was no name calling or insulting. But I did say things that he didn't want to hear and he didn't like that I pushed back and called him out on being a bully (didn't use that word, though). It was clear he was not happy at all by the end of the talk.
Managers have next to no actual power. They are mouthpieces for their boss, and so on. Your manager's job is to frame their communications to sound like they made a decision, or took some action.
Will your manager sound like a whiny B going to his boss to complain? The answer is probably yes, so he won't do it.
Your manager not talking to you out could be from fear of further confrontation, not because you have something to worry about.
Time will tell how it actually plays out but my guess is that you did yourself a favor. Your manager will think twice before saying something to you. No manager wants to their lack of power put on display.
It will all come down to how the conversation went. Candor is being direct and professional. Don't sugar coat things, but no need to be disrespectful. If you confronted him with facts or how his behavior made you feel, you should be fine. If you called him names or insulted him, then that could be trouble. Good luck!
We embrace candor until someone is actually candid.
You shouldn't be in trouble for embracing candor! But in all honesty, it depends on your manager and factors of the actual conversation - you may not have yelled, but what went down?