Thread regarding ExxonMobil Corp. layoffs

Advice from a Manager Part II

If you are currently feeling unhappy at work, it's easy to place the blame on your supervisor. After all, they are the ones who assign your tasks, provide feedback, and ultimately determine your success in the job. However, it's important to recognize that your own attitude and mindset also play a significant role in your level of happiness at work.

It's easy to fall into the trap of thinking that if only your supervisor were more supportive, understanding, or fair, then you would be happy at work. But the reality is that even if you were to switch to a new job with a different supervisor, you may still find yourself feeling unhappy if you don't address the underlying issues within yourself.

Here are some common attitudes and behaviors that can contribute to feeling unhappy at work:

  1. Negative self-talk: If you constantly criticize and belittle yourself, it can be difficult to feel motivated or confident in your work. Instead of focusing on your mistakes or shortcomings, try to focus on your strengths and accomplishments.
  1. Perfectionism: While striving for excellence can be a positive trait, perfectionism can be detrimental to your happiness at work. It can lead to feelings of anxiety, frustration, and burnout. Instead of aiming for perfection, try to focus on doing your best and being proud of your efforts.
  1. Lack of boundaries: If you are constantly working overtime, checking emails outside of work hours, or taking on tasks that are not your responsibility, it can lead to feelings of resentment and burnout. It's important to set boundaries and prioritize self-care.
  1. Lack of purpose: If you feel like your work is meaningless or unfulfilling, it can be difficult to feel motivated or satisfied. It's important to identify what is important to you and seek out work that aligns with your values and passions.
  1. Resistance to change: If you are resistant to change or new ideas, it can make it difficult to adapt to new situations or challenges at work. Instead of fearing change, try to embrace it as an opportunity for growth and learning.

If any of these attitudes or behaviors resonate with you, it's important to take steps to address them. This may involve seeking out therapy, practicing mindfulness or meditation, setting boundaries, or seeking out new job opportunities that align better with your values and passions.

Remember, happiness at work is ultimately within your control. While it's easy to blame external factors like your supervisor, the key to finding happiness at work is to focus on changing your own attitude and mindset. By doing so, you can create a positive and fulfilling work environment, regardless of your supervisor or job title.

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Post ID: @OP+1mkiwPPU

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Maybe, just maybe, Exxon and Imperial ate terrible companies , only I business because they sell a desired commodity and the price is still high.

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Post ID: @7tqd+1mkiwPPU

This sounds like it was AI-generated.

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Post ID: @5tmt+1mkiwPPU

Fake post generated with ChatGPT.

Move on.

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Post ID: @2fnb+1mkiwPPU

Advice from an employee.

If management would learn these three skills, we would be much better off as a corporation.

(1) The ability to sunset bad ideas quickly before we spend tens of millions of dollars on research only to put the bad idea on the shelf.

(2) Look outside before reinventing the wheel internally. If there was technology that we could buy or lease from a third party technology provider that we could commercialize in our corporation to make money, buy it. It costs too much money and time to develop "Me Too" processes.

(3) You must punch your ticket as a technical contributor in a group before you can manage the group.

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Post ID: @1rkp+1mkiwPPU

@1haw I wouldn’t be so sure…..

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Post ID: @1vrv+1mkiwPPU

She’s back with a vengeance. Sounds like my manager ( not leader)

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Post ID: @1vki+1mkiwPPU

Be grateful! He came back and gave us another nutritive pep talk.

No more tweeting on campus, Slackers!

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Post ID: @1snx+1mkiwPPU

@OP

What if I told you….

That nobody is interested in your advice?

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Post ID: @qbm+1mkiwPPU

Self reflection and managing my own attitude is fine, if my efforts are rewarded and if I have the support I need to succeed. It’s a completely different world when your manager is standing beside you on a project and problem solving together while sharing feedback, instead of not being helpful and just judging you across the table and not giving psychological safety.

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Post ID: @bqd+1mkiwPPU

The problem is success at exxon is not attributed to actual success, but a political game that could result in a sh-t rating due to factors well outside your control: bad managers who just don't like you, focusing on actual unit support that makes the company money or prevents loss rather than advertising yourself, some stupid little thing that gets blown out of proportion in the "assessment by uninformed committe" that is the ranking process, etc. It doesn't matter if you're actually just good at your job and devote 125% of your time to plant success, but some random, bullsh-t that you have no control over because maybe you smiled weirdly and someone didn't like it. It's not about results, it's about loyalty to the soviet party. Too many managers running groups they have no experience in to effectively timely lead. So, they just manage by demanding loyalty. This is the exxon bullsh-t that puts blame on the individual rather than the culture.

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Post ID: @brt+1mkiwPPU

ExxonMobil is so keen on root cause analysis. The symptoms the OP lays out in their post are simply behaviors employees acquire over time to survive the mental anguish of working for this damn company.

It’s confusing because maybe you are feeling really happy at work. You might love your job and give thanks for it everyday. You think you’re part of a team - making a difference - you have achieved a lot of success for the company - receive great feedback (so you are told) - get along well with people - even despite the reorgs that seem to happen all the time.

Then maybe you - or a peer - gets NSI’d with no forewarning after decades with the company.

Soak on that.

How can EM be so untruthful and misleading to their people? Why don’t they tell them STRAIGHT up what their shortcomings really are and what they can do to save themselves? Don’t you think others see this and think, “gee, how can I prevent that from happening to me?”

Maybe if I strive for perfection.

Work more hours.

Take calls on the weekends.

Guess what??

It all starts and comes down to management. OIMS 1: Leadership, Commitment and Accountability.

There are good managers and bad managers, but the entirety of the ExxonMobil review SYSTEM is flawed. And because of that, it creates distrust and mental anguish, that over time, makes employees feel a lack of purpose and resistance to change. Kind of like an allergen. At first the bee sting doesn’t ki-l you - but the 100th might.

One of my old colleagues had been dropped to the bottom and ranked in the lower 1/3 for years and his manager LIED to him about it. He never knew the truth until he was with a new manager who shed light on his predicament. How could that kind of dishonesty happen?? Because there is no TRANSPARENCY in the system!

The way it works is to keep people in the dark. EM does not truly care about helping employees succeed and achieve their best. They have a few chosen ones and it’s a “numbers game” someone needs to go in the bottom seat(s) so they’ve got to have staff around to fill those spots. The older, often most loyal employees are the best targets because they don’t want to leave and are more likely to tolerate the mental abuse, so close to retirement. But they’re also wise to how screwed the system is. No surprise so many people I know who have retired in recent years say GOOD RIDDANCE. How is that a positive reflection of the company, when people that worked there for years tell you how bad it has become?

Managers, you know what you need to do? Provide the actual feedback to the employees. Let them read it. Don’t cherry pick what you tell them. Someone worked hard on writing it - let the employees READ it. Let them see what their actual rank is relative to their peers. Let the employees really know what you think of them - and what their career trajectory looks like. Make this information easily available on their career development website.

Oh wait, you don’t want to be so transparent? Is it because if people knew the truth and had that kind of line of sight to THEIR CAREER ExxonMobil would lose 1/2 their staff?

Like a house of cards it would fall. People would realize they’re not being paranoid - EM really is the devil we say it is.

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Post ID: @dnr+1mkiwPPU

If only you had that time and dedication with your team instead of posting at a layoff board.

Oh wait. Nevermind making useless assessments is part of EM management

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Post ID: @axi+1mkiwPPU

Good post. All true. But with your "advise from a manager" it does smell a bit. Two posts in a row about how employs should be realistic in self reflection.. great. I wonder, however, when I can expect a post from Manager outlining your responsibilities in coaching and developing your direct reports to navigate the current environment set up by MLRP, offshoring, and neighborhooding? How about you just do your job! Well do the same. 'Cause We are EM!

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Post ID: @orh+1mkiwPPU

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