Oh there are so many but the last did it for me. I was given a major responsibility to get the sites in compliance with items required to maintain our license to operate. Each monthly meeting she beat on me for a status. Told me I had to get buy in from the two department heads. Meanwhile she was going behind my back telling them we didn’t need to do what she had tasked me to do. Once I found out what she was doing I left the company and am much happier. This woman is insane
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Applied all 48 Laws of Power on my career development to advance his/her own career at my expense.
https://www.shortform.com/blog/what-are-the-48-laws-of-power/
The 48 Laws of Power
Law 1: Never Outshine the Master: Ensure that those above you always feel superior. Go out of your way to make your bosses look better and feel smarter than anyone else. Everyone is insecure, but an insecure boss can retaliate more strongly than others can.
Law 2: Never Put too Much Trust in Friends, Learn How to Use Enemies: Keep a close eye on your friends — they get envious and will undermine you. If you co-opt an enemy, he’ll be more loyal than a friend because he’ll try harder to prove himself worthy of your trust.
Law 3: Conceal Your Intentions: Always hide your true intentions. Create a smokescreen. If you keep people off-balance and in the dark, they can’t counter your efforts.
Law 4: Always Say Less than Necessary: Say little and be ambiguous, leaving the meaning to others to interpret. The less you say, the more intimidating and powerful you are.
Law 5: So Much Depends on Reputation — Guard It with Your Life: Nurture and guard your reputation because reputation is integral to power. With a strong reputation, you can influence and intimidate others.
Law 6: Create an Air of Mystery: Be outrageous or create an aura of mystery. Any attention — positive or negative — is better than being ignored. Attention brings you wealth.
Law 7: Get Others to Do the Work for You, but Always Take the Credit: Get others to do your work for you. Use their skill, time, and energy to further your ambitions while taking full credit. You’ll be admired for your efficiency.
Law 8: Make Other People Come to You — Use Bait if Necessary: Make your opponent come to you. When you force others to act, you’re in control. Bait them, then attack.
Law 9: Win Through Your Actions, Never Through Argument: Demonstrate your point rather than arguing. Arguing rarely changes anyone’s mind, but people believe what they see. They’re also less likely to be offended.
Law 10: Infection: Avoid the Unhappy and Unlucky: Avoid miserable people. The perpetually miserable spread misery like an infection, and they’ll drown you in it.
Law 11: Learn to Keep People Dependent on You: Make your superior dependent on you. The more she needs you, the more security and freedom you have to pursue your goals.
Law 12: Use Selective Honesty and Generosity to Disarm Your Victim: Use honesty and generosity to disarm and distract others from your schemes. Even the most suspicious people respond to acts of kindness, leaving them vulnerable to manipulation.
Law 13: When Asking for Help, Appeal to People’s Self-Interest, Never to their Mercy or Gratitude: When you need help from someone in a position of power, appeal to their self-interest. They’ll be glad to help if they’ll get something in return, and you’ll get what you want without seeming desperate or irritating.
Law 14: Pose as a Friend, Work as a Spy: Be friendly, sympathetic, and interested to get people to reveal their deepest thoughts and feelings. When you know your opponent’s secrets, you can predict his behavior and control him.
Law 15: Crush Your Enemy Totally: Crush your enemy completely. If you leave even one ember smoldering, it will eventually ignite. You can’t afford to be lenient.
Law 16: Use Absence to Increase Respect and Honor: Once you’ve become well-known, don’t wear out your welcome. The more you’re seen and heard from, the more you cheapen your brand.
Law 17: Keep Others in Suspended Te---r: Cultivate an Air of Unpredictability: Throw others off balance and unnerve them with random, unpredictable acts. You’ll gain the upper hand.
Law 18: Do Not Build Fortresses to Protect Yourself – Isolation is Dangerous: Never isolate yourself when under pressure. This cuts you off from information you need, and when real danger arises you won’t see it coming.
Law: 19: Know Who You’re Dealing With – Do Not Offend the Wrong Person: When attempting to deceive someone, know who you’re dealing with, so you don’t waste your time or stir up a hornets’ nest in reaction.
Law 20: Do Not Commit to Anyone: Don’t commit to any side or cause except yourself. By maintaining your independence, you remain in control — others will vie for your attention. You also have the ability to pit the sides against each other.
Law 21: Play a Su---r to Catch a Su---r – Seem D-mber Than Your Mark: Make your intended victims feel as though they’re smarter than you are, and they won’t suspect you of having ulterior motives.
Law 22: Use the Surrender Tactic: Transform Weakness into Power: When you’re weaker, surrender rather than fighting for the sake of honor. This gives you time to build strength and undermine your victor. You’ll win in the end.
Law 23: Concentrate Your Forces: Focus your resources and energies where you’ll have the most impact or get the most benefit. Otherwise, you’ll waste limited time and energy.
Law 24: Play the Perfect Courtier: Learn the rules of the society you’re playing in, and follow them to avoid attracting unfavorable attention. This includes appearing like a team player and being careful about criticizing diplomatically.
Law 25: Re-Create Yourself: Create a powerful image that stands out, rather than letting others define you. Change your appearance and emotions to suit the occasion. People who seem larger than life attract admiration and power.
Law: 26: Keep Your Hands Clean: You’ll inevitably make mistakes or need to take care of unpleasant problems. But keep your hands clean by finding others to do the dirty work, and scapegoats to blame.
Law 27: Play on People’s Need to Believe to Create a Cultlike Following: Offer people something to believe in and someone to follow. Promise the world but keep it vague; whip up enthusiasm. People will respond to a desperate need for belonging. Followers line your pockets, and your opponents are afraid to rile them.
Law 28: Enter Action with Boldness: When you act, do so boldly — and if you make mistakes, correct them with even greater boldness. Boldness brings admiration and power.
Law 29: Plan All the Way to the End: Make detailed plans with a clear ending. Take into account all possible developments. Then don’t be tempted from your path. Otherwise, you risk being surprised and forced to react without time to think.
Law 30: Make Your Accomplishments Seem Effortless: Make difficult feats seem effortless and you’ll inspire awe in others and seem powerful. By contrast, when you make too much of your efforts, your achievement will seem less impressive and you’ll lose respect.
Law 31: Control the Options: Get Others to Play with the Cards You Deal: To deceive people, seem to give them a meaningful choice. But sharply limit their options to a few that work in your favor regardless of which they choose. Your victims will feel in control, but you’ll pull the strings.
Law 32: Play to People’s Fantasies: Conjure up alluring fantasies in contrast to the gloomy realities of life, and people will flock to you. Spin the right tale and wealth and power will follow.
Failed to tell me that retirement dinners must happen within 12 months of retirement. He saved the company $4000 but burned a bridge.
Lied
Told me how to do my job. Had literally 0 experience in my technical filed. GFY
When going on retirement (in EU), even a forced one, EM policy says: you are entitled to a dinner with colleagues and family, the supervisor should arrange the venue, he must attend and should pay the bill. I arranged everything myself, invited my supervisor twice (no response), he did not attend, I had to ask an ex-colleague (still active in EM) to pay with his EM credit card (I no longer had one since I was retired). So, I left EM without ever seeing my SPV or his (and my) manager. Sad? No. One of the most happy days of my life. No boring fake speech from my SPV and not having to see their sorry faces on my last walk out of the door. Hard feelings? Nope. Life it too short for that. What EM and it's "finest" (SPV's and MGMT) did wrong in my long career is on them, not me.
Our group was instructed to do something which was a clear violation against Business Ethics, we flagged it (as we should have), our claim was "audited", amongst others, by the highest-ranked auditor in EM at that time, the case went all the way up to US VP level (who did what high management does so excellently: absolutely nothing), and... the "offender" (we can only assume) must have had dirt on many of high management and was protected. Guess what: no violation (although it very much was!), the manager got promoted, our group got dispersed over various departments and our rankings dropped waaaaaay down. One person of the group (me) got an email from the newly appointed EU manager that there was nothing there, yet he never talked to either one of us, let alone investigate the case. We were so disgusted, we refused to sign the yearly "I comply with..." documents. Sadly, this is only just 1 example. Our group is happy now, none of us are still working for EM!
a male married supervisor told me "i give you more work because your single"
lolololololol - i did x3the work he did at the office plus everything his wife did in their home - e.g. laundry, shopping, housework, etc. etc. etc.
sooooo, i struggle to see how i have more time
typical em management - terrible leadership and totally clueless
Midland Facilities four years ago. You are great asset for the company.Lol
PIPd me so she could claim credit for rescuing all my work but actually did not do anything or change anything related to my successful work except wave flags claiming a rescue had taken place.
Unfortunately management was fooled by the flag waiving.
I am gone.
The funny part is that EM kept the deceitful flag waiver and lost the successful worker.
Told me: “even if you are the top performer again next year, you will get the same bad ranking for the same political reasons.
Just be thankful that there are not more chosen people in your rank group”
Inspirational
Told me I had to demonstrate strong relationships with our partners to be considered for a better ranking next year....so for the next year I provided outstanding feedback letters from the CEO, CFO and across key work unit managers saying I was their go-to person and got it done. At ranking session was told my feedback was NOT mapped to the right relationship level and that CEO, CFO and Unit managers were my EM boss & EM bosses-boss 'mapped' relationships....So I 'need improvement' to focus on those at my level, WTF! The CEO and CFO only gave the feedback because the whole management chain was happy, even our partners say EM has a lot of issue at the management level, especially when they see that they can't 'reward' good work with positive feedback to EM.
My manager told me to lower my evaluation rating for one of my staff whom I had supervised for over a year. My evaluation was fair based on her past year's performance and I had no real issues with her. They told me they had plans to get rid of her and it would be easier with a lower rating. I shamefully admit I went along with it because I knew my name would soon appear on their hit list if I didn't. That's when I fully realized the system was rigged.
Became my manager
So so many… worst was when I moved groups in January but got blamed for lack of onboarding new contractor to old org starting in May to justify lower ranking passed to new group.
The usual. Telling me how great a job I was doing and how much I was appreciated but refusing to write any of that down on the review then sign his name. I was told not to worry that everyone knew what I was doing but shifting business needs required a pause in promotions and future assignments.
Told lies about me to justify the NSI he was planning.
I left for another company and am so far enjoying the non-venomous culture…
Told me that I was twenty steps ahead of most staff in the global business unit, but my problem was that I did not have the patience for the staff that was twenty steps behind to catch up. They NSI'd me a week later.
Told me I had an outstanding year, made strong contributions and everyone is happy that I am on their team.
Then, two months later, told me I was NSI and had the option of a PIP or a PIL.
Told me I had an outstanding year, made strong contributions and everyone is happy that I am on their team. Then with a large smile on their face, handed me the small sticky note with a 0.5% annual increase.
Hired med
Never took any responsibility for anything that didn't present them positively. Completely untrustworthy.
Normal stuff. You know slap and tickle mantra.
Bent me over and you can imagine the rest
Lied to my face and stabbed me in the back just because I am over 55 and it's the "right" answer, politically. I hope him, his manager and ExxonMobil all die a slow and painful death. F U all.
told me I can't work from home
Made promises and then went back on their word. Even worse, they denied they made any promise was made.
Leason learned: 1. Managers will lie about anything to promote their standing, 2. Other managers will circle the wagons to protect their own (they have no employable job skills outside the company’s toxic web), 3. There are better places to work -which I’ve moved on and done.
It happened when EM start to copy Chevron about to change the name from Facility Engineer to Area Engineer. This situation happened one year before COVID at Permian Facilities. The mediocre manager was telling that every engineer had full responsibility in their projects and in design as well. Lied, he already had created a design group. Lol.
Tried to manage me.