Yesterday, I found out about the passing of a former coworker in a way that left me upset. The news was casually mentioned by some colleagues right near my desk as if it was the latest office gossip. I'm disappointed there was no email or mention of this by my supervisor. The lady who passed away, we weren't close friends, but I really liked and admired her. She often made me laugh, and after she transferred to another team, I took over her role and inherited all her work diaries and notes. These notes have been very helpful to me over the past year and made me feel a connection to her. This situation feels so messed up. So there it is, other than an icy work environment, everything else about the job is super. Happy Friday everyone! I'm taking the day off .. (...yes, i know the response already, no one cares....)
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It could possibly have been the wish of the family. Not everything requires announcements to coworkers. This isn’t about you.
My boss was revealing when a coworker died, emphasizing what a hassle they were to deal with. Has to remind them that it’s still someone’s dad they’re talking about. Blank stare back like I’ve said something incredulous. Will probably get placed on a pip.
That’s such a sad situation. Thank you for sharing. It indeed seems like it’s so hard to find true friendship at the icy office. When we spend so much of our lives working, we should care for each other more as humans while there. Often seems like there is some invisible policy preventing us from taking it beyond collegial niceties. Or maybe it’s just the workload and lack of time to grow friendship at work. When we find true friendship we should embrace it, especially at work where we can really understand each other’s situation because we are in the same boat in so many ways.
Leadership preaches empathy but do not practice it.
No compassion. How sad.
Ignore those that don't care. It's not worth it.
I know that is probably easier said than done.
Take care
Remember….. you are just a number.
Actually, a number can have a higher value.
John Mohr, Wells Engineer, ki-led in Spring Tx 2019
Yup some cold hearted sons and daughters of biotches there for sure
There is nothing comparable to have a cool co-worker or friend, even we know that is not true in some places, but you will not find anything alike. There was four or five years ago that the same situation happened at Permian about few people passes away and most of the people did not care, but the one that I remembered that everybody notice was one situation or maybe because it was a national news was a engineer who worked at Permian was ki-led in Houston.
Yes, I know what you mean. The work environment is very cold here. You are lucky that you enjoy your work.
Don’t ever let them make you believe you are a part of work family. But you cared, and that is what counts. I’m sure the person family will appreciate it if you send condolences.